Clutter and Hoarding – There is No Shame in Admitting No One is Perfect in All Things

Have you ever told yourself to expect perfection and when you couldn’t do it, believed there was something fundamentally wrong with you? If so, maybe you could consider rethinking this belief. The belief, “I am only perfect if I can be all things to all people at all times” can be so self-limiting! During your one chance at life on earth right now, do you really feel happy believing this idea?

There is No Shame in Admitting No One is Perfect in All Things

Feel confident no one can perfectly do all things. There is nothing personally “wrong” with you if you clutter. You CAN accept that you are wonderful AND that you are still working to improve your decluttering skills. Give yourself credit for what you CAN do and keep working at improving your decluttering skills.

See the Value in Different Things during Different Situations

Your “personal value” is different than the “use value”, using an item to achieve a certain goal while doing specific tasks. Your personal value refers to the fact that human life is precious. You are a human, therefore, you are personally valuable. You are always priceless no matter if you excel at decluttering or excel doing some other skill. Your high or low skills levels never affect your personal pricelessness.

Someone who “keeps score” regarding a task’s “use value” does so thinking activity score keeping improves a goal achievement outcome. For example, when decluttering a room and only using a coffee cup in which to put clutter, the “use value” of the coffee cup may be perceived as small. In other words, the amount of use you can get out of a coffee cup to collect clutter while decluttering may be perceived as small to the one keeping score.

However, suppose you’re using a great big garbage bag for decluttering. Now how valuable is the “use value” of the coffee cup compared with the “use value” of decluttering with a very large garbage bag? Does this comparison improve the outcome of decluttering? The “use value” of the garbage bag is higher than the “use value” of the coffee cup. The human has personal value regardless.

The One Size Fits All Attitude Only Works Some of the Time

You can feel confident knowing no one thing works perfectly in all situations. Just as there is no shame admitting some decluttering experts exist and many hoarders are also learning how to declutter. You are wonderful the way you are. Whether you declutter or hoard, you are wonderful. Your decluttering or hoarding skills have nothing to do with your personal value being wonderful. Choose to feel good about who you are regardless of how developed your decluttering skills are. Remember, there is no shame admitting NO ONE can be all things to all people!